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In the last several years, young Black women have grown out their relaxers in droves, counseling each other in dorms, in salons, and online, about how to care for their natural hair. The process is an intimidating one for many young women who decide to transition, particularly for those who have worn chemically-relaxed hair since their adolescence. It’s an exciting process, particularly having seen the wondrous “before and after” images, but there is an element of the unknown that comes with growing out a relaxer, and with it comes an insecurity about texture.

“Well, you can grow yours out, because you have good hair,” my aunt said to me last winter when I told them I was transitioning.

“What’d you say?” I asked. I knew what “good hair” meant, obviously, but it was 2010 and someone just said it with a straight face. I was baffled.

“I couldn’t grow mine out. I have too many naps,” she retorted.

I frowned. “I don’t have ‘good hair,’ and you don’t have naps,” I said, running her hair in between my fingers. It felt like soft, like a chenille blanket. “And even if you did, so what?”

“Mmm, girl no,” she said adamantly. “Look at this,” lifting the back of her hair to reveal her kitchen. I don’t know what it was I was supposed to be seeing back there that would debunk my point. I simply shook my head.

Since entering college in 2003, I’ve been amazed by all the different hair textures I’ve seen. One by one, my friends big chopped, micro-braided, kinky-twisted, and transitioned their way into bountiful amounts of thick, beautiful, natural hair. In college, I felt like I missed the memo. When did we all decide we were doing this? Never one to knock anyone else’s hustle, I remained on schedule for my touch-ups every six weeks.

But as going natural became more ubiquitous, I watched how men responded to my natural friends—they loved loose curls and waves. They also delighted in puffs made from tight coils. As for coarser textures, it was a harder sell.

“Going natural is not for everybody,” Jason*, a guy I went to high school with once said. “Like, I’m sorry. If you can get it to curl, cool. But if your s*** is just going to nap up or whatever, like . . . you need to just keep perming like you’ve been doing and stay in your lane.”

Despite this ignorance, the beauty of natural hair, of course, is that each person’s head of hair is unique, presenting different options for the woman in question. In fact, I found three different textures growing out of my head, which is enough of a challenge on its own.

To satisfy the complexity of our tresses and engage consumer interest, the beauty industry has responded with product lines that are designed for natural hair. The television world has also taken notice, though “natural hair” is solely depicted in the form of polite coils or corkscrew-like curls that buoyantly bounce on a woman’s head as she walks through the street.

Once again, there’s some mixed-messaging about who and what is valued as beautiful, acceptable, and desirable. There’s also a lot of false expectations for young women who are growing out their relaxers, who, in turn, become frustrated and resume relaxing because their natural hair isn’t camera-ready. As a community, we’ve become more accepting of natural hair beyond its use as a socio-political statement, and still we limit the full range of its scope by evaluating Black beauty through the same narrow lens.

*Names have been changed to protect the painfully ignorant.

- MAYA K. FRANCIS



  • http://NappturallySpeaking.blogspot.com MoZaic

    OMG this post is soooooo awesome!! It makes me sad to see a commercial on T.V. with a black woman wearing her Natural hair. Ththey always show the chick with the curly hair in the hair type of 3a-3c. Rarely you will see a lady with a kinky hair type and when you do their hair is in a straw set some other curly style.

    Not all black people have a curly hair type!! I love my 4type hair and I love to see blogs about people with my hair type because a lot of blogs are from people with a more curly hair type.

    Its funny to see what advertisers see as acceptable natural hair

  • http://www.questfortheperfectcurl.wordpress.com Elle

    LOL, cosign! And I died at “*Names have been changed to protect the painfully ignorant.” Did he really say stay in your lane? It would have been on like a large primate from a popular video game.

  • Amber

    Thank youuuuuu for writing for this! I have been getting the cold shoulder from the opposite sex since I cut off my relaxed hair in August. Not one single cat call when I walk down the street or offers to buy me a drink when I hit the club! I don’t understand why it’s so hard to appreciate a healthy head of tight 4a curls….

  • http://www.chicmodernvintage.blogspot.com Tonia

    I’ve been a natural forever, and when I straighten it it’s done with a hot comb/pressed I myself do not care what folks say.

  • Alexandra

    LOL @ that quote. I thought that was kinda funny. You gotta laugh at ignorance.
    Good topic. Texture is the biggest pink elephant in the natural hair movement, that most people know of, but dont want to talk about.
    Some girls will not go natural unless they have “type 3 good hair” and some girls will buy lots of products to make their type 4 “historical bad hair” curly. I’m glad I’m not the only one who sees this. The natural hair movement should’ve have changed this, but I guess not.
    There’s a natural standard, and all this caused is just curl envy.

  • Anissa

    I was talking about this with someone on twitter a couple weeks ago. The whole hair typing system just seems like another complex to me and another way to divide us.

    As for the “everyone can’t go natural” statement, I’ve heard this one before too and I think it’s so stupid. We were all born natural so that might be the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard in my life.

    Great article. I enjoyed reading it.

  • Ciqua

    This article cracked me up and also reminded me of my natural hair journey. It was hard at times but four years later it paid off. I hope people put a kibosh on the whole “hair is too nappy stay permed” foolishness. Yes I have the bouncy curls but I LOVE seeing women with coarser hair work it out. My hair had several naptastic textures until it all grew out and normalized. I’ve seen such creativity and gorgeousness with some of their hair creations that my hair couldn’t do. The quantity of women with “coarser” hair might be smaller in the media but I do notice them. I mean from going from zero to a few is already a HUGE accomplishment in mainstream media. We all have to realize that the whole natural hair movement trend is but still a couple of years old. I’m just impressed to see more and more black models with their natural tresses. I was just shocked to see it in mainstream images period. For awhile others “perfect” tresses made me insecure but once you tap into your hair’s unlimited potential- it will make you feel so powerfully confident. This is the reason of for going natural, not some type of popularity contest. I’m grateful for this article being written however we have to keep focusing on the union it has brought us instead of division. It’s been awhile since our sisters have been so connected and helpful to each other even pure strangers- mentoring and coaching. I know going natural and helping many others go natural brought me many friendships that yapping over perms and such would never have happened.

  • Iguehe

    Love this! Love my 4type hair as well.
    I started on my journey with that whole mentality “my hair is nappy. Nappy nappy.” A little envious of the women with type3 hair because they could do almost everything with it.
    ALMOST. As my hair grew and I did more of my research, I learned that there are a lot more styles and techniques I can finagle with my type4 hair that other textures can’t.
    But basically, its all about loving and embracing the hair you have on your head. I think the biggest lie I hear from women who get relaxer is that “natural hair is not for everybody.” How can the natural hair that God gave you, not be meant for you to maintain? lol

  • http://www.boycottbabyphat.blogspot.com Sugar

    My best friend did the big chop four months ago. It’s been quite an ordeal. The comments that she’s received, both ignorant and thoughtful, have truly thrown her for a loop. I told her that I would start transitioning after my birthday had come and gone. It was this past Saturday. Now, I stand at a crossroads. About to start a new, very public, job and I want to make sure that I’m not losing my mind dealing with my hair while I’m going through the growing pains of a new job.

    My bestie’s experience, like I’m sure that of so many others who did the big chop has been, is enough to make me wanna scream. That people could still be so ignorant in 2010 truly is a shock. I read a tweet last night from a woman who said that her husband had put a “kit” in her young son’s hair. I was so disgusted. She was too. I’d like to walk away from these relaxers, but my hair DOES look great with them. I also know that it would look great without them. THAT’s the dilemma for me because my hair is already healthy.

  • Reketta

    I’ll admit before I decided to go natural I was not on the ‘bandwagon’ until I noticed a curl pattern. I don’t think I intentionally wanted a 3c/3b (or what have you) pattern, I just thought curly hair was cute. I BC’ed in August and I have found that I do have a 3 type pattern but I also recognized how painfully cold-hearted people are towards ‘naps’. I have gotten both compliments and disdain from people who saw my relaxed hair disappear overnight (lol). The compliments however, make me sad because they come from people who say I have good hair and a beautiful curl pattern. One co-worker said she wanted to go natural but was scared she wouldn’t have a curl pattern. I saddens me because only two months prior I had the same thoughts. I’m happy to say now, with the research i’ve put in, that every pattern is beautiful, and every female can work her hair to her liking with a certain thing called styling.

  • http://thegoodjournal.blogspot.com Jennifer

    I went natural last February and was amazed at the many black women who patted my ‘fro and said: “You’re so brave.” “I could never do that.” “Well, you have good hair.”

    When did self-hate become the norm? And why is every other hair texture celebrated on this earth with the exception of ours?

    I will say this, though. I agree that it’s not for everyone. Straight hair or socially acceptable curly hair is so ingrained in our cultural mindset that it is a major adjustment to think of your own natural hair as being beautiful. Not everyone can get there and we can’t expect people too.

    As for me, I’m a full head of type 4. There are some naps, there are kinks and some curls. I love it all and rock it proudly. Viva la natural!

    ~jennifer.

  • lee

    tru dat!

  • http://visityourownstalkerdeux.blogspot.com/ Robby

    I have to say that the whole natural hair “movement” is very funny…I did what most of the community would refer to as the big chop in 2005, although it was never my intention to remain natural. I’m one of those unrightous chicks who just thinks of it as just hair-shoot me. Anyhow, I shaved my head bald, and loved it! I would let it grow, relax it, buzz it back, grow it back- wear a mini fro, buzz it again, grow it back- don a grace Jones asymmetrical box cut, buzz it again. Notice the pattern? The interesting thing about it was that there were so many people that assumed I had just done the big chop, and was just in the beginning stages of the natural hair journey when I would be buzzed or that I was mimicking Amber Rose, which was never the case. I sometimes even felt pressure to just be natural- it was really strange. Although I ever had an issue with being natural. I think natural chicks are the baddest chicks in the world if you ask me. I dream of being Pam Grier circa 1974 with her perfect afro and tig ole bitties from time to time, and to be honest it was more of me having such a big girl crush on Pam that really made me want to quit the creamy crack for good after my last relaxer in 2006. Today I’m donning a Pam Grier-esque fro, and loving it! It’s my um- transition piece until my hair grows to my desired length, but who knows I may just hit em with the heee and shave it all off again…

  • lee

    the main reason people tell me they can’t go natural is because they know they have type 4 nappy hair. these same people always rave about how cute my type 4 nappy hair looks. o_O

    i don’t break combs… detangling is def more of a process compared to women with looser curled hair but that’s the only hurdle i wish i didn’t have with my hair. everything else is smooth sailing baby!

  • Lovinthenatural

    This article is spot on. I’ve been natural for 6 months now, and for the last 6 months I struggled with my transition. Why? Basically, I didn’t know how to properly care for my natural hair and I held completely unrealistic views of what my hair was going to look like. I remember telling my mother sometime during the 4th month that my hair was far too nappy to continue growing it out. Her response? “If someone has nappy hair, its because they aren’t taking proper care of it. Learn how to take care of -your- hair. ” Of course, she was right (as mothers are), and I learned what my hair did and did not like. It’s been fustrating, time consuming, tiring, expensive, and eye-opening, but definitely worth every minute of it.

  • Shannon

    LOL PEOPLE
    I know that some may not have a set “pattern” but your natural is just that. YOUR NATURAL! you have to find what works for you and WORK IT. May it be wash-n-go, product, rod-set, or in my case a little of it all. I have three types( 2-3 at the nap, 4 from ear to ear, 3 in the front) on my head SO I have three to four different coils, curls and some tight waves. All the tips and advice you get is just a jumping point. It took me two and a half years to understand the constant revival of my hair regiment is how it works. For every inch or two I find something new and work it. I got out of the AF, got hired for a job and found a better one three months later, I was hired in the middle of transition ( I didn’t BC). Think of it this way. Give it a year being all natural, You can always relax it later so why not try it for a while.

  • Veronica

    Being a sister that has worn her hair both natural and relaxed, I have mixed feelings about this article. All of the categorizing 4a, 3c, etc. is crazy, IMO. I think sisters need to first become comfortable with who they are, as a person. Hair typing and styling is relative and what works for some may not work for others.

  • http://Accordingtoshameka.blogspot.com Nikki

    I did my big chop 3 months ago because after having my son and returning to work I couldn’t spare another moment in my mom’s salon waiting to get my hair done. It was the best thing I have ever done for my hair!! And I’ve never felt more confident and sexy. I’m looking forward to seeing what my hair looks like a year from now!!

  • http://sallomazing.blogspot.com Sallomé

    I had the privilege of being in the audience of HAIRitage, an event at Long Island University a few weeks ago. Dr. Rosalind Jefferies broke down the science behind our hair and I was amazed at how our cultural conversation is linked to the actual science (i.e.while many wrap their hair when they go out, we were told that we actually have more water that runs through our hair shaft than others, and since water is a conductor you may just want to keep the negative vibrations away from your dome).

    I had a relaxer in junior high and much of high school because the other girls did and seemed far more proud/confident than I felt about my years of extensions. THEN… I met some girls from NYC that had locks. Whoa! It was so dope to see how they carried themselves, how they spoke, what interested them. And I realized they were far more aligned with my teenaged mind than my relaxed friends. So… I grew the relaxer out, and eventually rocked a baldy for many years.

    I love that we can do so much with our hair. I just wish it could be a conversation about how dope ALL of our hair is versus whose is better. The minute we start letting women know that they look good, they are sexy, they are workin’ it, the minute men will agree.

    We say what’s fly. Start honoring your sisters when you see them in the street rockin’ whatever appeals to you. Our compliments to each other are what need to be addressed. Not how many many hit on us.

  • binks

    lol this article was funny.
    I can understand both sides of the equation because I had relaxed hair most of my life now that I’ am transitioning to natural hair trust me I get the off colored comments and the stares of what are you doing to your hair, why is your hair looking like that, are you going to cut it? I hear it all but as I do more research and go to more blogs dedicated to natural hair I do notice that TEXTURE is the big debate in that community. Because naturally we don’t have the same texture and usually the looser curls are more desirable and often praised and more acceptable than the tight coils that many black people have and afraid to reveal personally I think all of the natural hair textures are beautiful if you take care and manage your hair. That is why I don’t want to know what my texture is as of right even though I have a feeling my hair is on the wavy side (have my hair in invisible braids) because I don’t want to get sucked into the foolishness of it. I think women especially black women need to just be them and love themselves and stop listening to the foolishness of what other people deem is beautiful or desirable and just listen to themselves

  • belle

    honestly….WHO CARES WHAT A WOMAN CHOOSES TO DO WITH HER HAIR!!!! I have had natural hair, pressed hair, relaxed hair, short hair, long hair. Why do we have to be so caught up in our hair, period. Hair is great and it says a lot about us, but if a woman chooses to relax her hair every six weeks or rock a fro, so be it! Let’s not allow how we choose to wear our separate us.

  • http://vivid-liveincolor.blogspot.com/ sun.kissed

    Great post. I’m currently torn between continuing to relax or going natural and I battle with it every 6 weeks. I continue to relax for the reasons stated above. LOL at *Names have been changed to protect the painfully ignorant…dead!

  • Faith

    I have tight watch-spring 4a/b curls and initially, I had my reservations about it. Many of us secretly wish for a looser curl pattern because society values a more Euro-Centric spin on natural hair, if at all. However, through my one year and five-month journey with my natural hair, I have accepted my hair for what it is, in all it’s kinky coily glory. I let negativity roll off me, and those who are opposed to my hair I keep a safe distance from me. A lot of the time, if you can get others out of your head, turn off YouTube and get off the blogs (as one of the natural YouTubers mentioned on this one), you can figure out for YOURSELF how beautiful, versatile, and unique your hair is—no matter the pattern.

  • jane

    someone explain to me what type 3 or 4a is? I’m natural but never had the “texture talk” with my friends. I would say my texture and fullness is like Shingai Shoniwa of the Noisettes. what type of natural is this? is the comparison between loose coils like Dominicans or Puerto Ricans compared to Nigerian tresses?

  • Bianca

    Great article! I have to take a deep breath sometimes when I hear remarks such as “Oh you have that good grain, that’s why you can go natural.” I cringe, shake it, and keep moving. It’s a conversation I’ve had time and time again. I tell those who ask that they must be willing to accept what God gave them. Please do not compare your texture to the next individual. We all have unique patterns that helps us stand out. I had this very conversation the other day with a neighbor whom I ran into at Target to purchase Miss Jessie’s. She has a GORGEOUS head of hair, yet she compares it with mines. *kanye shrug* I never put much thought into becoming natural. I was tired of relaxers and looking like everyone else. I can say that today there is FAR MORE education about going natural than 10 years ago, when I decided.

  • Patticia

    I have to agree. A pretty face is a pretty face regardless od the hair.

  • Fraulein17

    oh my goodness! i thought for a minute that i was the only one who noticed this in advertising! everytime they have black women with natural hair they always have what i describe as ” THAT hair” its not puffy and kinky like mine. its annoying. they always have THAT curly hair similar to jurnee smollet,jennifur freeman,and alicia keys.. oh hey notice how all three are mixed?lol

    the only time they show nappy hair like mine is when they’re showing afro puffs or afros in 70s era type things. shame!

  • Bronze

    “Going natural is not for everybody,” Jason*, a guy I went to high school with once said. “Like, I’m sorry. If you can get it to curl, cool. But if your s*** is just going to nap up or whatever, like . . . you need to just keep perming like you’ve been doing and stay in your lane.”

    If a man takes that much stock in your hair texture….maybe he is gay…..

  • http://naturalesquehairjournal.blogspot.com/ April

    This is grieving me so bad lol. I just posted this again on my FB wall. We gotta unlearn some “thangs”. Our individual definition of beauty should be that image looking back at you in the mirror. Why? Because God thought so. Once we get that straight, we need to celebrate each others textures and lengths, not call them “good” or “bad”, or covet them, but call them BEAUTIFUL whether it looks like a coil or a cotton ball. ^_^

  • KB

    Yes, because any man who voices an opinion on a woman’s hair fits a stereotypical mold of the DL, fashion lovin’ gay man. Please. Women have been subjected to men’s opinions on “beauty” for centuries. Men have been socialized into seeing women as objects that should look beautiful for them! Texture to me is somewhat like hair length…some men prefer short hair on women while others prefer long hair. I’m not saying that’s right but it is what it is. Hearing a man talk about what he thinks is not attractive is nothing new …gay or straight, a man is gonna objectify women by reducing her worth to her physical appearance. Males and females unfortunately do this everyday!

  • http://dareesinsights.wordpress.com Daree

    I’m enjoying the low maintenance look of a Caesar, until my barber’s phone cut off. Now I have a twa, but I may ‘hit em with the hee’ again soon, too- lol!

  • Princess

    Why not become Muslim? You get to wear a cool hijab everyday, and you don’t have to worry so much about what your hair looks like. The only people who see my cropped hair is my husband and family and they could care less how it looks. Our feminine beauty is meant only for those who deserve it, not every lothario that hungrily leers at you ;-) Besides, most of you who continue to relax your hair will end up bald anyway, so what is really your objective? You may look cute now, but relaxers are bad for a reason…

  • NaNa Love

    lol the funny thing is, as my “type 4″ hair grows more and more I get ALOT more attention from guys. I say its funny cuz I thought it would be the opposite when I started going natural.

    But regardless I don’t really see the hype about curl patterns. I wasn’t expecting anything when I went natural. I actually love that my hair looks light and fluffy. Its kinda cute lol

  • glamarazzi

    lmao

  • Fuchsia

    I agree! I’ve rocked my hair in every way imaginable and continue to do so. It helped that I didn’t start relaxing my hair until I was in my mid twenties but even that was exciting and a new adventure. I understand that it may be hard or even damaging if you break the relaxer cycle but if you’re committed to taking care of your hair then why not try different looks. We need to stop worrying about what people think. A lot of other races are secretly (and not so secretly) envious of black hair textures. I feel I owe it to myself to do as much as possible with my natural OR relaxed hair because it’s me and it was a gift from my Creator.

  • Brianna

    I agree. The hair typing system is wrong is my eyes. The last thing black people need is another classification system.

  • dwan

    You know im glad you wrote about this. Ive been natural since may 1, 2010 and ive heard some crazy stuff. when my friend cut my hair, i guess we both expected to see 3c hair. but i have 4c some 4b. she said maybe its in shock! I didnt like the comment. Im thinking maybe this is my natural state. its almost like finding out your newborn has down syndrome (just for example) do you stop loving your child because they may not be able to carry out the dreams you had for them?! no! you love them even stronger!

    I love my hair. I even stopped putting gel in my hair so people wouldnt get used to the wet look. Get used to the natural state (shea butta is my bff)
    I’ve had friends say you carry it well but so and so she dont look right! I automatically say how you not look right with the hair that is growing out of your head? Its like one of the dumbest things ive ever heard. and i tell people dont say that the minute they say it! you sound stupid! just like that “cheat on you with a basketball player”-song. I tune it out soon i hear the beat drop! Dumbness. but i make it my mission to quit the stupid talk the minute its comes out their mouths!

  • dwan

    yeah guys are funny. they walk pass you and yell out compliments!

    Keep it up sista!

    you look beautiful queen!

    I love the natural hair!

    Maybe they’ll start picking black women over other races again :) (wishful thinking)

  • Ashley Machelle at UIS

    I started a natural hair empowerment club at my school entitled KC’s (Kinkys&Curly’s) and I’ve been getting a great response. A big part of this transition is learning how to care for straight/perm hair to natural hair, a whole new world. So far my boyfriend has been really supportive, even when i went thru my ugly stages, learning and not knowing what to do with so many textures all over my head with permed ends (UGHHH), but now he LOOOOOOVES it. He sees the versatility of it, and when I do wear my hair straight its like an occasion (not that it has to be) and he notices it (where as before I was a regular straight joe smoe). Best of all he is infatuated with the way my hair smells because I wash or conditioning it SO much more and I take better care of my hair.

  • Ashley Machelle at UIS

    And yes EVERYONE sounds brainwashed when they first think about going natural…..its always the same answer;

    1. ” Aw naw girl I need my perm”. (Why? of course your new growth stands outs! Its fighting to change back to its natural state!)
    1a. “You dont see this (points), I need a point?” ( I see absolutely nothing)

    2. “My hair isnt like yours” (I thought the point was to be yourself, not me)

    3. “My hair is going to puff up” (duh)
    OR
    3. “What if my hair is nappy?” (this where I feel the conversation going in circles)

    4. “Ima look like an African!” (OFFENSIVE and where I become bewildered and ready to go off on their ignorance)

    but I hear these same responses EVERY, SINGLE, TIME!

  • http://naturalesquehairjournal.blogspot.com/ April

    LOL!!! It’s silly isn’t it? Smh. Lord, help us.

  • http://twitter.comamberyum Amber

    Who gives a damn about all this hair classification stuff? Youre either relaxed or natural. When I went natural I was insecure about my hair type because I was worried about how men would perceive it. That was about 5-6 years ago. I must admit that while my hair was short and coarse I didnt get that much attention but later when i learned how to tame it and came up with a method of doing my hair it grew and my texture softened up. Now I find that men have a different respect for me. Also I feel that with going natural women arent living that WHOLE Lifestyle.. Its not about the hair only.. its the way you think, act, feel, dress,and EAT. So ladies do your research in getting intouch with your roots.. <3

  • http://allnaptural.blogspot.com/ Laquita

    Great article :o)

  • http://www.misswhoeveryouare.com Eileen

    THANK YOU!

    I’m so over all of this natural vs. relaxed hair talk. We get it. Brown skin women look good with their natural AND relaxed hair.

  • sweet pinky

    NaturallyCurly.com (http://www.naturallycurly.com/hair-types) has a good visual chart.

  • yesindeed

    omg! Thank you for posting this! I am 16 and have decided to be bold and shift back to my natural hair (a process I thought would be liberating) but instead I’ve been treated by my family as if I’ve lost some of my beauty or finesse..its hurtful. I say ” whats wrong with flaunting my natural beauty, and they say ” you look ghetto or the 70s are over baby.” Its refreshing to know that others have similar feelings.

  • BrittanyBEEST

    I went natural in 08 an havent looked back since. I’ve noticed a lot more women also going natural and its nice. As for natural women on television there are lots of representations of women with natural hair, curly or kinky. Like the Yoplait 100 calorie yogurt commercial or the Ego waffle commercials.

  • dendoo

    I agree 100%

    People ask me what hair type am I. Natural? I don’t even know what the different “natural hair types” are. People run around “Oh I’m a 3z”. All I know is I have hair, it doesn’t see perm and it makes me happy. Isn’t that what being natural should be about?

  • Umar dahiru

    a’m lokin 4 chocolate lady

  • Jinx Moneypenny

    I know right? ROFL.

  • Denise

    When I was considering going natural 15 years ago (yep…I’m a vet) a girl that I worked with told me that I would never get a man looking like that. Thank goodness I have never cared what other people thought or said and went ahead with my plan. I’m happy to report that going natural was absolutely one of the best things that I’ve ever done. I see the world completely differently as a “natural” woman than I did with a perm. I also have NEVER had any problems attracting members of the opposite sex and have always gotten compliments from both men and women. If a man has a problem with a woman with natural hair that’s “his” issue. Keep your head up and believe me part of the reason “the man” you are supposed to meet will approach you will be because of the confidence you exude by being you and how well you ROCK your natural!

  • http://www.DryerBuzz.com DryerBuzz

    I did the big chop 15 years ago once realizing I had no time for myself after having 3 daughters and a son. Too much hair in my house. Before that I’d had every style and color known to man and spent every other saturday at the salon. Kept it chopped to some degree, but over the last year I let it grow. Too much for me. The “natural” chatter and the products were too much for me. Especially being stopped on the street or in the elevator. I watched the videos and attended the hair shows in awe. Not understanding the number of products on top of products people use to get this or that. Then there are the cliques based on this wave or that kink. For me I need to keep it organic (for the right reason) and natural to me. My spirals keep me one with universe and being natural give me time to appreciate other things in life. Plus I never have a bad hair day. All that other stuff i can do without.

  • http://www.chicnoirhouse.blgospot.com chic noir

    Until I started to read blogs online, I had no idea that so many blk women have issues with the natural texture of their hair. I figured most blk women relaxed their hair for convenience not because they felt the texture of their hair was inferior.

    I’ve never heard either of parents or grandparents use the term good hair. We’ve got to change the way we speak about who we are and our natural beauty.

    Otherwise, blk women should just go searching for non blk srt8 haired men to knock them up.

  • http://www.chicnoirhouse.blgospot.com chic noir

    & ROTF

  • Anissa

    “All I know is I have hair, it doesn’t see perm and it makes me happy. Isn’t that what being natural should be about?”

    This!!!!

  • Thankful2000

    WOW WOW WOW! Again, I say I am glad that I am a black person not from the States hahahahaaaaaaaaaaa
    you guys have a level of enslaved thinking that is beyond most black people! This entire article is DEEP!
    It’s HAIR! Take the shackles off, close the plantation down in your head and wear the hair that you were born with or shut up about it. Bloody hell!

  • http://www.angelapanama.com/ Angela Panama

    Same here, when I cut my hair every guy I knew acted as if I had lost my mind. And I dont meet many guys that dig the short natural look. Oh well, I LOVE IT!!!

  • Caty

    I have worn my hair natural, pressed, texturized and chemically relaxed. I don’t know anything about hair typing. The type of hair that I think is best is the hair that you are blessed to have on your head. Many people have illnesses or conditions that take their hair away. The whole natural vs. processed thing is a bunch of junk. It is not my business what you do to your head and it is not your business what I decide to do to mine.

    If you mind your own business, you will always have plenty to do!

  • http://www.companystoryandbrand.com Lise

    I appreciate this article because it’s eye opening. The hair I have chosen to embrace is not something I had a choice over – like skin color or lineage. The hair typing/classification is only relevant to me because it helps suggest the products I can use to care for my hair.

    Going natural is an inner acceptance that radiates outward – right down to the end of your kinky, curly exceptionally unique and beautiful hair.

    Besides, any chemical that drastically alters the health and texture of your hair couldn’t be healthy for you internally. And as this article points out, the chemicals end up having a psychological effect on people too – not just physiological.

  • Vonna

    I like the Mcdonald’s commercial with the sista with the twist out still rocking her sunglasses she bought for a buck when she was a kid..

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